Setting up the boundaries you believed you didn't need

Ask yourself this: am I in some way leaking vital energy? Giving away my power? Who or what am I thinking about, worrying about, or obsessing about that may be draining or exhausting me? Am I expending energy in a way that causes an energetic deficit? Perhaps still carrying the weight of past experiences or relationships?

Am I secretly waiting for them, whoever they may be, to forgive, accept, love or release me in order to start living my life to the fullest?

Your energy is your most precious resource and what you give your attention to or put your life force into determines whether you are attuned to a frequency of lack or abundance.

Take a moment to drop into your body and notice where your energy is leaking.

If you feel like you're leaking energy in different areas of your life, it's time to set up some clear, healthy boundaries.

This means loving yourself enough to stand up for yourself, stepping up for what truly matters even if it comes down to disappointing others.

It also means learning to say "no" without shame to honor your truth and safeguard your integrity.

Because here's the thing: we don't need someone else's approval, permission, or explanation to begin to truly live, love, and heal.

Yet establishing boundaries does not mean closing our heart, shutting down or becoming selfish. On the contrary, creating healthy boundaries is a powerful act of self-love, an unspoken declaration of self-worth and inner alignment that allows for more kindness to flow through us.

You see, boundaries do not make us stop loving.

They help us embrace who we truly are, encouraging us to own our light while staying kind and open towards others. And when that kind of thing happens within us, something extraordinary also begins to unfold: we become more compassionate beings who are able to feel that same compassion for all those existing around us.

So if you feel like you are running short on energy, often feel fatigued or believe someone else is dictating the way you move through life or you are constantly putting your needs and wants behind those of others, ask yourself if your boundaries have been broken or crossed.

Steps to build better boundaries begin with knowing and understanding what your own limits are. What do I value? Who I am, what I am responsible for and what I am not responsible for, what is ok and what is not ok for me to have to put up with?

As much as we love someone we are not responsible for their happiness, choices or behaviours. Knowing this is an automatic door-opener to freedom.

Ultimately, the more grounded we are in our boundaries and the more we are able to communicate these effectively, the less energy we are going to leak which makes for greater love and abundance to flow freely into our lives.

So stay soft, people, and set up boundaries of steel.